Saturday, 27 December 2014

See you in 2015


Christmas presents and left over food are being put away or eaten up. The wrapping paper and cards are put back in the cupboards for next year. The festive clear up begins, making way for new beginnings.

Christmas meet ups are still being arranged, some presents are still to be exchanged and there's a whole new year to look forward to. Wellmeaningbeing has been quiet over December, I ended up having a break. I am feeling refreshed and energised for the new year ahead.

So, Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year to all of you!

See you in 2015!

Sunday, 30 November 2014

Gratitude #12



I am incrediably grateful for:

The country park jog on Saturday morning.
For almond macaroons
For this Balmology Comfort Balm. It has really helped with my wind chapped skin and blemishes.
Face masks- easily in my top three favourite skin care products
Cozy socks and cardigans
Christmas shopping- starting to feel festive
Long afternoon naps
Hot mugs of tea
Catch up chats
Feeling loved.

The happy formula



So, what is my happy formula? 
What positive actions can I do do easily each day that in fact create my very own wellbeing focused happy chappy formula?

Daily:
A good breakfast
A few minutes calm before work
A good facial moisturiser and decent skincare routine in general
Feeling refreshed
Warm drinks
A few happy connections throughout the day
Sitting at the table for dinner.
A Good nights sleep.

In General:
Communication
Healthy balanced diet
Friendship
Family
Fun
Quiet
Self Care

When thinking about what makes my happy formula, I just quickly wrote down exactly what I thought. I didn't question it, I just wrote it down and took a moment to reflect. Repeatedly it seems like the beginning of the day is centered around self care and I know this is true.
When I have a good breakfast and have completed my ideal skincare routine I feel always well fed and refreshed, I feel set up for the day ahead. I love Herbal Teas and can often be found sipping them throughout the day at work. It keeps me content and happy (it is the little things).

Getting a text from someone during the day is always a pick me up, alternatively I may think of a someone to text and brighten their day, its a bit of give and take when it comes to communication.

Sitting down for dinner at the table helps me unwind and leave the work day behind. I find sitting at the table helps me focus on eating dinner and also talking to the boyfriend about our working day and leave it at the table.

Sleep is really important. I'm trying my hardest to disconnect from the internet before bedtime. If I check social media right before my head hits the pillow, I find that my head is then processing all those images and words as I am trying to relax before bed. Instead have been flicking through to a random page in the little mindfulness book that I keep by my bed side. As I fall asleep I focus on what I have read for a little while and then just think of sleep. As you make have noticed it takes me a long while to fall asleep, but this does seem to help.

Taking a moment to just focus on the small things, those small easily fulfilled actions that can change your day for the better. My aim for the next month is to create the time to make sure that I fitting in what has turned out to be "my happy formula". Obviously this, in my mind is a very slimline version of what could be a very detailed life size scaled happy formula. However, for now it is pefect to focus on daily comforts and happiness. Which will in turn make life that little bit better.

What is your happy formula? I'd love to know!


Thursday, 27 November 2014

Feeling Rubbish

For the first time in ages (which is actually lucky thinking about it) the past week has been rubbish.

It played out like this:

I became unwell and very run down- I still tried to go out jogging and made myself worse.
Que in massive mouth ulcers that swelled up my cheek-attractive.
Next-I start feeling very sorry for myself
Feeling sorry for myself leads to eating all the biscuits. Ginger cookies. Diving but naughty!
Because I'm still unwell I don't do any exercise.
I then feel bad because I feel I have lots out on over a week on progress.
I'm now back at stage one.
Then I feel the pressure
I'm running a marathon and I don't even feel like training right now.
I feel like a knob.
I eat more biscuits.
I doubt myself
I have no self control at the moment.
I binge watch T.V for the weekend and eat some tacos.
Tacos are one of my faves, tacos give me mild food poisoning.
I feel sick again
More telly watching
I start to feel bored.
I realise I have not written a post for a while and then feel shit again.

It's a cycle that I am having to break. I'm the only one that can. I still don't feel like running. But I have found some aerobic exercise routines that I'll be trying out in the meantime and this Saturday a country park walk/jog has been put in the diary.

I think you have to ride the wave sometimes and more often than not you come out the other side wanting to improve on things.

Yes I needed a rest. But I didn't need to eat tons of junk food and not move for two days straight, except to go get more food. Bluergh. Any way at least I'm being honest with myself. it's time to get back on the whole foods and get an exercise routine established again.

WHY is it so cold just as I need to go out and train!? DAMN YOU WINTER AND YOUR ICEY WINDS.

On a side note. As I am starting to find more beauty products I like would regular readers like to read more about said products? It will always be a mix of green and cruelty free. What do you think? Should sharing my liked products become more of a thing on wellmeaningbeing?

It is always good to have a brain dump/rant. I'm feeling better already! Toodle pip.



Monday, 17 November 2014

London Marathon Training : Week One



I knew that my fitness was not great. But gosh, I am unhealthy. I eat a balanced diet, but exercise had slipped to just walking an hour a day so I was in for shock this week.

I managed a mile non stop by the end of the week. It was no ten minute mile but I got there. I got there by shouting at myself when I wanted to stop. Shouting out loud. Yes I am weird. But if weirdness is going to help me push myself, then I'm all for it.

I'm currently working towards a 5k, then 10k and then I will follow a 17 week marathon training program. I have chosen the London marathon 2015 program as it was easy to digest and made sense. I need simple.

Simple steps will hopefully get me to where I want to be.

What I like about running so far:
The freedom I feel when I have my music on and I am just moving
The time it frees up to just think or not. It is at times almost meditative.
Feeling accomplished when I have done it.
Cute gym gear. Especially when it is on sale or from TK Maxx.

What I don't like about running so far:
I can tell that as training progresses it will get in the way of daily life. I need to be dedicated.
I don't like being cat-called or call a prostitute, just because I'm wearing running leggings. My jiggling booty is not a sexual invitation.
I've realised that I am very self conscious and feel eyes are on me. I need to get over it.
I don't like running in the rain. I will do it. I have done it. I hate it.


I have never done anything like this before, nor have I tried to fund raise a large amount or had a target amount set for me. It is scary. I'm not going to lie about it. I'm currently thinking of ideas to fund raise for the run.

These include:

A car boot
A Charity pub quiz- planning already in motion
A Raffle-at said quiz
I have already sold 31 dvds to music magpie- resulting in a whopping ....wait for it.... brace yourself...
£14.70! as they say, every little bit helps. I may do this with book as well.

I'm currently brainstorming. If anyone can share their running / fundraising tips. It would be greatly appreciated. Also how do you stay motivated to run when it gets colder. Or do you use a tred mill instead?

If you would to sponsor me, you can here. Thank you.



Why it all started


This wellbeing blog started as a space to create a welcoming place for anyone wanted to find a little bit of encouragement and a little bit of calm.

Almost a year ago, when wanting to find a little bit of calm for myself  I attended what I thought would be a yoga class. It turned out to be meditation class, which turned out the be a  orientation for a community that is widely seen as a cult and have a very dark past and an even more unsettling present.

So, not being discouraged by this negative experience, I set out to look for "wellbeing blogs" something that I could liken too.

As I looked into it, I couldn't easily find anywhere that spoke of relaxation, wellbeing and daily life without a heavy focus on spiritualism. Don't get me wrong I think you can find a level spiritualism in most things in this world. However, I wanted to find blogs, websites, articles that encouraged personal wellbeing of the self. Yourself, myself. No ego, higher self or the like.

I wanted to find a space that was separate from it but could also be linked when wanted/needed with other theories and practical routines that encompass wellbeing. Because after all everyone's wellbeing is important. It doesn't have to be sprititual at all. Wellbeing can be and  should be both practical and attainable.
It is unique and different for each and every person. You should be able to meditate how you want and not have to say Namaste. You should be able to focus on your wellbeing and not worry about the fact that you don't to like yoga. Wellness doesn't have to be a fashion statement, you don't need the mala beads or the green smoothies, if you don't like them. What it can be is finding a routine, little actions to add positivity to your day. That make YOU feel better. Wellness can be a lifelong practice that will keep you ticking over happily.

Your wellbeing practice does not have to be about being one with the universe. It's okay if you want to be your own person and not take part in the concept that you are just an actor in this play that is life. It's okay to be a contradiction and light sage but not say a prayer. You can meditate and not be a buddisht. You can do some morning stretches and not be a yogi.

Of course if you want to be any of these things that's your prerogative, if it brings your life meaning and peace. That is fantastic. I just feel that there is gap for those who want to focus on themselves and their wellbeing without feeling the need for it to have definitive spiritual focus.

Similarly this kind of wellness doesn't have to be selfish as it sounds. I know my view of personal wellbeing seems very secular and yes predominantly it is about looking after yourself, whether that be with eating good food, pampering yourself with great beauty products, dressing in your favourite styles, reading inspiring literature, exercising or making time for friends. What ever it is that makes sure that you are number one in your own life. It all sounds very greedy.
 But it isn't, what I find happens, is this;
 
 When you are kind to yourself. You are kinder to others. When you give to yourself, you are more willing to give to others. You are happier and spread happiness around you.

When you work on your own wellbeing. those around you will be affected. Little ripples will follow. You will be happier, when you find things that work for you, it will feel like you are becoming a better person, a better version of yourself. You will wonder why you hadn't started sooner.

Have you found a great exercise class, have you started baking? You have found a new genre of film that you absolutely love? Are you amazing at make-up, do you love playing an instrument? What's you passion in life? Make sure you make time for it. For yourself.

Passion is spiritual. That's my opinion.
Passion feeds you spirit.
Passion is what keeps us going. Finding you own little passions in life will make it all the better.

I promise.

Tuesday, 11 November 2014

I'm running the London Marathon 2015

 
I'm running the London Marathon 2015!
 
The picture above was taken in July of this year. I had just completed 5K for Cancer Research with my best friend. We had set no target time, we just wanted to do it in memory of those lost and those currently fighting. Taking part in that 5k sparked something inside. So with positivity flowing through me I entered to complete the London Marathon 2015, raising money for Cancer Research. Why? many reasons that you can read about below and also I took it as a sign that I should apply because I have always wanted to take part and next year the marathon falls on my birthday.
 
As the ballot results came through, my application had not been picked. I was sad but put those feelings aside because I had to focus on my driving test in a months time. I failed my driving test, then in the same day, that afternoon an email popped up in my inbox. I had been put on a waitlist with the cancer research team and this was my second chance to receive a place in the London Marathon.
 
I got it.
 
Here is my why:
 
My Grandma was a fantastic woman, she worked hard all her life and always had a positive outlook. When she would baby sit me, we would bake cakes, have sleep overs and watch Disney and we would read books constantly. I would make up dance routines, using her old vinyl for backing music and practice my ballet routines for her. Together, we were a trio, me, my Mum and My Grandma
 
My last memory of my Grandma is me reading her Topsy and Tim books while holding her hand. When I had to leave, she grasped my hand so tightly. I thought she had been asleep, So I hugged her tightly and whispered I love you. I remember crying but I didn't think that would be the last time I saw her.  
 
I think of her almost every single day.  I am doing this in memory of her. I am doing it for my family
 
I know my story isn't unique, I know there are a lot of people out there that have lost family and friends to cancer. It is very likely that we have all been affected by cancer, we have all had to see the struggle.
 
But things are changing.
 
Over the last 40 years, cancer survival rates in the UK have doubled. In the 1970's just a quarter of people survived. Today that figure is half.
 
With great treatment and will power one on my best friends Jake has amazingly won the fight against cancer twice. He is one of the most friendly, upbeat people I know. He has also completed the marathon twice! What a nutter! In all seriousness, I love this guy, I am doing this for him.
 
There is a lovely woman in my life who I have known for 6 years and she doesn't even know the impact she has had on me. She often tells me to believe in myself.
 
She has recently had the all clear from cancer. Undoubtedly there were bad days but she remained up beat, welcoming you with open arms into her home and offering you a drink and a chat. The only thing different was that she was fighting cancer. She was still positive. Still strong. Still Julie. I am doing this for her.
 
I'm doing this for everyone.
 
Cancer Research's ambition is to accelerate progress and see three quarters of cancer patients surviving the disease within the next 20 years. This requires an ambitious new agenda of research, pioneering new approaches and ultimately investment. 
 
I know that everyone is fund-raising know a days. But if you would like to donate me the price of a birthday cocktail that would be amazing. If you want to donate a bit more and get me closer to my initial target of £2000. Thank You!  You can donate here.
 
It's going to be a hard slog and on the day, I'm sure it is going to be emotional. I am ready for the challenge. I am going to be committed to the training and will be posting updates along the way.
 
 
Well done if you got to the end. That was a marathon in it's self!
 
If you have any tips, they would be greatly appreciated!
 
 

Monday, 10 November 2014

Fallen Leaves : An Autumnal Reflection


I love Autumn.

I love hot drinks, scraves, jackets and boots. I was made for Autumn. (and winter)
It is also a season where I begin to think of the year ahead. As the leaves begin to fall making way for new ones, it symbolises that change is just around the corner.

The summer sun has faded, replaced with the crisp autumnal wind. I always find myself reflecting on what has happened in the past months and then happily look forward.

With time, new things will begin to blossom, it's time to start planning.

Not strict omg what am going to with my whole year? Instead it is time to start thinking about things you want to accomplish and experiences you may want to have the following year.

As we begin to hibernate during the winter months, wouldn't it be great to have some proverbial nuts squirrelled away.

Nuts? I hear you say. Stick with me.

Yes, little bits and pieces that keep you merrily occupied and motivated in the winter month. To keep the inspiration following.

Here is what I'm planning to do:

I am going make more time to read. I find reading lets my imagine run wild and I benefit from it creatively.

I am going to work on my fitness. It's time to become aware of my body and establish healthy, active habits.

I am going to make sure I eat at least 7 vegan meals a week. I not vegan, but having this in mind helps keeps me be creative in the kitchen and I don't enjoy eating lots of meat anyway.

I want to learn a new skill or topic. I'm not sure what, but I will learn something new! I want to be confident in myself and my abilities.

I am going to save for a holiday next year. Looking forward to some sunshine, will keep the dull winter days from bringing me down.

Having these actions in mind will keep me on track and benefit my own personal wellbeing and hopefully those around me.

I looking forward to it already!

What are your plans for Winter? For the new year?

Thursday, 6 November 2014

You are doing really well


Remember that when beginning any new venture or learning a new hobby
There are going to be times that you will feel lost. That you are not getting anywhere.
When you start to feel like this it is important to remember that. . .

You are doing really well.

You are doing really well, because you are passionate. Because you want to move forward. Moving forward is exciting but you can get lost in thinking about the future and that is what makes completing new tasks in present seem so slow.

Slow moving. That no change is happening.

Change takes time.

Remember to take stock. Look back at what you have already acheived. I'm sure you will be reminded of something you have forgotten and have already accomplished.

When I am feeling down about not achieving what I set out to. If I think I have failed. I will make a list of all the things I have learnt. It often turns about that there is a lot to be happy amount. It might be hidden underneath the disappointment right now. But if you dig a little deeper you will find that you have accomplished so much already.

For example, I failed my driving test today. I am feeling pretty gutted about it to be honest. I could easily get stuck in negative thoughts and beat myself up about failing. After a little cry. I made my list. In a nutshell it showed that, six months ago I was prettified of driving and now I feel so comfortable that I cannot wait to pass my test and drive properly. That in itself is an amazing accomplishment for me. Yes, I failed. This time.
However, I can learn from my mistakes and use them to improve. If I fail again, I will do the same again.

Be mindful of negative thoughts and tell yourself that you need time to work towards your goals.

You are doing really well.

Monday, 3 November 2014

I am a walking contradiction


I am a walking contradiction.
Sometimes it confuses other people and sometimes myself.
It's okay
Live life your way
It's okay to be a total contradiction.

When it come to wellness, it isn't clear cut and black and white. It can often be quite contradictory but it works. It's balanced. Balance breads happiness. Contentment.

For example:

I love green smoothies but I happen to love the occasional pork pie.
I love cooking vegans meal but still eat bacon every now and then.
I rarely drink but when I do I'll be out all night.
I love quiet nights in but also get twitchy if I haven't had a night out for a while.
I am a lone wolf. Who can feel lonely at times.
I can be loud and hold a conversation. I'm also shy and am often keep quiet.
I try to be cruelty free but still use carmine and beeswax (I do try to avoid it) in a few products and still use my old conventional make up (when will I run out!?)
I want to be natural but use a normal deodorant.
I crave to be minimalist but I am a bit of a hoarder.
I will save save save my pennies and them go a bit crazy and splurge with my spending.
I am laid back, until I can't take the crap anymore.
I'm book worm and also a television nut.

I want to work within a field where I can dedicate by day to someone else. To make someone feel supported. Feel good in themselves. I have decided that this is the kind of person I want to be, this is what i want to do with my life. However, I know I still have much to learn. Especially when it comes to relaxing more and worrying less myself.

We are all walking contradictions. And do you know what? That is what makes the world go round. We enjoy all sorts of different interests and hobbies, we all have different motivations. We all live is the huge melting pot of difference and similarity, that's what makes us unique.

Don't feel down if you don't fit a certain mold or don't agree with someone else's opinion. Don't worry if the way you live your life doesn't match with what someone else is doing. If you find yourself fancying a fry up with your chia pudding, go ahead.

A side of bacon with that veggie burger? 
Why not? 
Do you see what I'm getting at? 

Putting limitations on your self, will get you no where fast. If a certain way of living is not working for you, alter it, tweak it until it fits with how you want to feel. With how you want to live.

Live your life your way. Even if one action or practice contradicts the other. If may confuse outsiders, who look in on what you are doing. It doesn't matter. What matters is that you are happy on the inside and that will beam out of you inside out!.

Go on, contradict yourself! There are no limits.
Live life your way.

Sunday, 2 November 2014

Gratitude #11



I have been busy of late. Causing me to forget that I need to stop every now and then and take stock. I need to take time to recoup and count my blessings. For the things that I have been so grateful for.

For some awesome Dim Sum with my Mum.
For meeting up with some great girls at the green beauty meet up last week.
For this coat that I splurged on
For knowing it will be okay, even if the route to getting there is difficult.
For flower essence, especially Rock Water.
For having quality friends over quantity
For having fun and dressing up for Halloween, even though we were staying in for a movie night.
For cozy knitted long cardigans and chai tea.
For knowing that a new year is just around the corner.

What are you grateful for? I'd love to know.


Thursday, 30 October 2014

Wellbeing // What does wellbeing mean to you?

 Today we get to gain some insight into how a very cool green juice chugging lady called Claire thinks about wellbeing and how it applies to her lifestyle. From reading her thoughts, I feel that we think along the same wave length that yes, eating whole foods and as clean as possible is best but eating a pizza here and there isn't going to hurt. It not even indulgence, it's balance. And that is awesome to hear because Claire is actually a Nutritionist in training. So that means pizza chased with green juices for all! (or not). Enjoy..

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 To me wellbeing means.....
 

Feeling your very best every single day.  To me wellbeing is all about you.  So it is changing 
your lifestyle to make it the healthiest it can be.  For some that may mean being a tee total super runner yogi raw vegan, but for me it is finding a balance between giving my body and mind what it needs and deserves.
 

I don't binge drink, but I do have a glass of wine on occasion or some fizz to celebrate a special occasion.  I don't generally eat pizza on a Monday, but if it is a friends birthday then I will happily celebrate at a pizza restaurant with them any day of the week!  I exercise daily, but if I go out on a run and my body isn't feeling it, I will respect that and try again the next day.


 
 
Wellbeing means commitment to yourself.  It means mental strength and determination.  But is also means satisfaction, happiness and self-love that you have nourished and cared for your body to the best of your ability.
 

My wellbeing mission is for people to realise that being 'healthy' does not have to be all or nothing, and that it does not need to take over people's lives.  I want to show people that making small changes will help you feel at
 your very best every single day.  And gradually these small changes become habits that are engrained in your life and you wouldn't even consider eating a Mars Bar because you know it would make you feel so bloody awful (true story).
 

I want people to fall in love with food again.  It is so sad that people (
especially women) spend the majority of their lives feeling guilty for eating and hating their bodies.  I want to show people that they can eat healthily, feel good about themselves and their bodies and for it to taste a MILLION times better than the bad food which forms a part of our daily life.  
 

As part of my wellbeing mission I am currently working with Jack Beanstalk Juice to open a juice bar in Balham.  We want the juice bar to be an educational hub where the local community can come to learn about how to make their lives that little bit healthier.  And there will, of course, be great juices and healthy treats such as raw chocolate, energy balls etc

 


 As we are a start up business we are crowdfunding to show our prospective landlord that we have community support and that people want an educational juice bar in Balham.  For more information on what we are about please see our crowdfunder website (www.crowdfunder.co.uk/jack-beanstalk) and if you can pledge it will make all the difference to getting our wellbeing mission into action!!

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Claire is a qualified commercial lawyer who has quit the city life to study Nutrition and Naturopathy.  She loves running (5 marathons in) and Bikram yoga  and her blue boy Alan, who you see numerous pictures of on her blog, as he is the name sake. (I love him!)
 

Please check out here awesome blog The Healthy Blue Bird you will find allsorts of posts ranging from of course juice, along with raw chocolate treats, running posts and more. Add her on twitter here

P.s watch the crowdfunding video even it be just for the awesome song and the cute kids at the end! 
 

Wednesday, 29 October 2014

Stop Feeling Inadequate



Sometimes, and yes, I know I have written something similar before. But sometimes.
A sneaky voice comes over me, pestering me.

"you're not good enough"

Feeling inadequate.

It's mainly happens when meeting new people. Something I had to do recently.
I compare. I analyse. I over think. Stop feeling inadequate.

I am the one making myself feel this way.

I worry

I worry that I don't fit in, that I can't come across as I'd like. I worry that when people meet me, all they will notice is that I've quite goofy and come across as a flake.
That they wouldn't take me seriously.

In these situations I just have to remain quiet for a few minutes come back to myself and think. You are here now, just enjoy yourself.

You could spend you whole existence worrying about each movement, gesture, sentence. Worrying that someone wont like it.
That they wont like you.

You have to just push through it. Of course it would be a shame if they didn't like you. But at least you have given them an honest representation of yourself. Yes, you could say that, then you know that they don't like you for being you. But isn't it better to be truthful to yourself?
Be yourself and then there's no pretense. 
There is no second guessing.

Calm down and become okay with how you naturally behave. Once you begin building on your confidence, you will feel more comfortable when you are next in a new social situation.

Once you are more comfortable in your own skin and accept how you are, that comfort will come across when meeting new people. You will feel at ease and things will flow more easily.

You'll be fine.
You are good enough.
It will be great, I promise.

Tuesday, 28 October 2014

#Green Beauty Blogger Meetup


Sunday, for me at least, normally plays out like this:
I try to lay in and can't . . .
I peak out of the duvet cover in search of a hot tea.
I enjoy the quiet morning and normally cook and eat breakfast by myself.
I laze about, do the weekly shop and maybe spend time with family.
Most afternoons are in front of the telly... no shame in that.

However this Sunday there was no lie in, I got up before seven and hurriedly made my way through my morning routine. All in order to make an 8.30 train. Where was I headed?

To Reading. For what? The Green Beauty Blogger meet up. To spend the afternoon with nine other bloggers who as well as sharing an interest in green beauty, are also some of the loveliest people you could meet. I met Katie at Paddington Station, once on the train to Reading we spent the next half hour talking about food, and our love for falafel.

Rachel, Sarah and Jen had organised a blogger lunch. Rachel had also been hinting that something special was in store but we had no idea what was awaiting us.

As we approached our table, we were each met with a hand written place setting and a goodie bag on each place mat. As we neared the table we all notice a large amount of pink. On each chair there was a goodie bag to end all goodie bags (I will gradually review some of the contents of said bag) .
 (if you want to have look at how the day went check out Rachel's vlog)


It was overwhelming. Truly, a testament to how highly regarded these three girls are. And as we sat down to chat about all sorts of topics, there was a sense of excitement and community.

This is why I made the effort. I wasn't sure if I could handle seven hours of traveling in one day but it was worth it. For that short amount of time I was part of something special. Obviously I still am now , we all chat through our blogs but to physically interact with everyone and to see how we all get on, is just fantastic.

It was authentic. There was no falseness everyone just gets on with it and you can see their personality shine through. In the same way it does when reading their blogs.

So thank you, to the three lovelies that made the day possible, to Rachel for the brilliant idea, to the brands that surprised us on a sleepy Sunday and to every single person there who made it worth while.

Without them, Sunday the 26th of October would have been a bit boring.

What will I do next Sunday?!

Wednesday, 22 October 2014

GIVEAWAY NOW CLOSED: A Huge Thank You and a slightly smaller sized Giveaway


 Hello fellow wellbeing enthusiasts! Apparently there are 200 of you that like to hang out with me and I think that is awesome. To say THANK YOU, I am holding a rather special giveaway. This giveaway is a mash up of things that represent the interests that have been shared on wellmeaningbeing. Things that have brought me and 200 followers together.

So whats in it for you?

The possibility of winning these goodies worth £120:
(all item have been paid for with my own money, unless stated otherwise)

A Susie Watson Designs china mug to drink wonderful mugfuls of tea
A journal to write down your thoughts and dreams
A full size Green People facial oil to keep your skin plump this winter
A full size Nourish Kale Exfloliating Cleanser to keep your skin smooth and bright
Belle Pierre Volume Mascara for cruelty free beautifully full lashes
Mu London Rose Foaming Face Wash - received in a beauty box and passing it on to share the love
The Konjac Company Sponge with french red clay- received in a beauty box and passing it on to share the love
A Pacifica Blood Orange Gift Set containing a perfume, scented moisturiser and lip balm.



These are a few things that I have enjoyed this year. If you know that you would not use certain products. Please let me know upon winning and I will omit them, passing them on to another winner.

This giveaway is now CLOSED. Thank you to all who entered.

To enter you will need to be following wellmeaningbeing on both Twitter and Bloglovin.
You will need to leave me a comment saying what you would like use the journal for and what your favourite type of tea is. (a girl always needs more tea recommendations)
Tweet about the giveaway.
Retweet my tweet about the giveaway (it's pinned at the top of my twitter profile)

If you don't do all of these things, sadly your entry will not count.

This giveaway is open internationally.

I will announce who wins on twitter. If I have not had a response in 24 hours then I will pick another winner.

Finally, to whoever receives the giveaway I would like to see a pic showing a few things in use, like the mug or journal. That would be so cute!.

Thanks again to everyone, you have made writing here so much fun and inspiring. Thank you for your support and kind thoughts.

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Monday, 20 October 2014

I had been keeping it a secret

(It's not anymore!)

I had been keeping it a secret.
When I started this blog in January of this year, I had decided that I would only let a select few people know what I was doing. People that I knew would not judge me. As I have continued to write throughout the year a few other people I know have found out about wellmeaningbeing organically and some have even followed me through twitter.

I had chosen not to tell my family, for the reason being that it would give me full creative control over what I write. Without the risk of upsetting anyone or embarrassing myself.

You see I am actually very quite with my feelings. What I write on here has mostly happened in the past and I have taken time to reflect on it. There are things that I have chosen to publish that I have not really discussed with my family. Bad breakups, recovering from traumas, loosing friendships and just growing up. I'm not sure that they know me as a grown up, which is not their fault, because I am still learning who am myself.

This past weekend I chose to quietly mention it to my Dad. I did out of excitement and to see what he would say. I asked him to keep it quite and by mistake he shouted it out for a few other people to hear. I was embarrassed, I gave him a serious look, I was slightly upset.

Walking home I discussed with my boyfriend that I felt stupid for telling my Dad about my blog. But when thinking about the why, it turned out that it was not because I'm embarrassed on having a blog, far from it. Blogging and having a creative outlet has made 2014 a really happy year for me. I love to write and have forgotten that (excuse my big head) that I am good at it. Why had I given up this fantastic hobby?

Anyway, I was nervous and embarrassed to tell my Dad because I don't tend to discuss my hobbies and interests with my family in minute detail. I never find the time. However I have found the time through creating wellmeaningbeing to express myself freely. Freely because no one really knew about it.

Freely because I want to be true to myself and if I'm honest, I haven't been expressing myself truly in front of my parents for a long time.

I don't often mention that I love nutrition, I don't talk about my passion wellbeing or my fascination with relaxation techniques. I forgot to tell them that I'm more interested in green skincare etc. These things are important to me, however sometimes they get lost in conversation. I would rather, talk about mutually appreciated subjects rather than taking over whole conversations and make it about me.

Where as here, in this little place I call my internet home. I talk about whatever I want and am likely to find someone who wants to talk about it. I have made friends and found other creative outlets that I would not have found if I hadn't started a wellbeing blog called wellmeaningbeing.

So if my Dad (or anyone else) happens to find where I have been hiding, I will be proud that he can see what I have been doing and of what I have accomplished all on my own.
Because I think it's blooming fantastic!

Friday, 17 October 2014

Who do I / What do I write for ?



With all the blog talk I see flying around about building a community, being present and having an audience. Knowing your niche.

I start to get a massive headache.

As my blog focused on wellbeing and lifestyle you could easily say that that is my niche. And yes it is my main field of interest, it is what is important to me, I am passionate about it. So I chose to create a space to write about it. I try not to get consumed with constantly thinking is this right? I want it to grow organically. If, in someone else's opinion it is wrong to not be thinking of my blog as a brand or business. That's okay because essentially, I write for myself. I began this blog for myself.

I write for me.....

The women who wants to feel whole
To feel confident in her actions
To know she is doing her best
To know that mistakes are okay
To believe in her self
To accept there is no right way

I write for.....

The women who wants stability
She wants to create a home in her heart
She wants to create little practices each day
She wants routine
She craves adventure
She loves food
She loved to eat
She loves to dance

If that happens to also be you or someone else reading out there. GREAT.

I want to write for anyone out there who has their own thoughts of wellbeing, life, beauty and anything else that falls into being part of daily life.

A life filled with comfort and steady happiness. A life with wellbeing as a daily focus.

I write to find a community of people who feel the same way.

I want to share techniques and share experiences, I want to write pieces that inspire and settle in someone's core and brings them comfort.

So I'm writing for myself , for you, for anyone who will stop by and listen. I write to connect.

To connect with my thoughts
Myself
My world
My present
My future.

I don't want to be consumed with worrying if my niche is right or if my brand okay. I don't want to be my brand, I don't particularly wont the pressure.. I want my words to be the focus. Not how I look. How I look shouldn't matter. Sometimes I feel that if you are focus on making your blog like a business you loose the reason you started. If you are so focused on being the right niche/brand are you really going to be focussed on being yourself? Are you going to be happy to just sit down and see where writing takes you or are you going to be more worried about the views it gets?

What matters is that I have been writing for a while and have found people through it who share similar views or who are happy to discuss completely different ones. We connect and start to explore each others blogs. Our thoughts, our likes and dislikes. If the outcome of staying true and authentic builds a wellmeaningbeing community and I get to know my "audience" then that is fantastic.

However, right now I write for every single person who reads this blog as an individual. I write with feeling.

I am my own person.

I write for that.

Tuesday, 14 October 2014

Things to remember when you fail


Things to remember when you fail.

It is okay to fail.
It is okay to cry
It is okay to start again
It is not a weakness
It can be learned from
It is not the end
It's a chance to get it right

You are not a failure.

I spent two hours crying over my mock driving test. Because I failed. I failed. I made some mistakes and I failed.

The thing with failing or feeling upset or stressed out is that once you have managed to calm down and are not focused on the feeling, the deep raw emotion. You can begin to focus of the WHY. Why are you so upset? Why has this situation stressed you to the max? Why are you feeling like a complete failure?

Most of the time, for me at least, it is because I'm putting to much pressure on my own shoulders. I'm weighing myself down. I'm making it way to important. Creating so much importance that when something goes wrong, it causes major disappointment.

We should never allow ourselves to be disappointed in our own efforts.

I'm not saying that being mindful of WHY will eliminate stress. Because it will not.

Stress
Upset
Failure

These things will always be a part of life. We just have to learn for ourselves the best way to manage it. To think through the why and use those answers to resolve the situation or the emotions being felt.

I felt emotionally raw about failing. WHY? Because passing my test means better prospects in all areas of my life. Putting this much emphasis on it will lead to panic and stress. Lesson learned.

Next time I will be focused on my breathing and will work on accepting whatever comes my way. If I fail, I'll most liking have a small cry about it but I will understand the why and move on easier afterward.

I've learned that there is no need to be so hard on yourself. We have to have our own back. Be our number one supporter. Often all we do is focus on the negative. If we work on understanding the feeling behind the negative, its very often because we are working towards better prospects, hoping for better things.

Failing does not mean you are a failure. It's a chance to try again.

Stay positive.

Sunday, 12 October 2014

Pure Chimp Matcha Green Tea

For when you want some green tea with an extra kick, I'd say get some matcha.
I've tried matcha before as it is said to be jammed pack full of antioxidants, much more than their regular counterpart. This Pure Chimp Super Matcha Green Tea comes in a cute 50g jar (priced at £14.95) . I like this because there is no extra packagaing waste and looks great tucked away in the cupboard. The leaves are so finally ground that when you make your green brew, the leaves dissolve into a light green colour.


 What they say:

Our super tea also helps to reduce redness in your skin. 137x antioxidants of regular green tea.
Raise energy for up to 6 hours, helps with weight loss.
 
The taste is unavoidably green, slightly stronger than green tea, but still smooth in taste. It's not bitter, it just tastes like green tea with a bit more welly. It you already like green tea, I'm sure you will like matcha. It is so easy to make a cuppa with this, it's even quicker than waiting for your teabag to brew.Which is great for when your are in a crunch for time. The only negative when using loose ground tea leaves, is that the few leaves left that have not dissolved sink to the bottom of your mug but that is easily fixed with a quick stir of a spoon.



When I fancy a builders tea in the morning and still want a matcha fix, I have been popping 1/2 a teaspoon in my green smoothie. I can tell when I've added this to my smoothie mix, the caffeine kick is always welcome at 6.30am!

Have tried some matcha yet? You could be a matcha made in heaven!

* Pure Chimp sent me some tea to try, all of my opinions are my own.

Monday, 6 October 2014

An ode to Tea


An ode to Tea, my favourite beverage,

I had tried to write a poem but I'm affriad my rhyming is not it's best.

So instead I wrote this, just for fun. With all the seriousness, of course.

I love a welcoming mug in the morning
Standard builders is often the way
Green tea is delicious
A herbal refresher is a delight
I love that chai can bring you snuggly comfort
A hug in a mug
Lemon brings a zing
Some tea tastes like dessert
Some taste like popouri
I love tea
Tea , I have to leave you until you are just right , I can't drink you right out the pot
Rasberry iced tea, I don't drink you enough, but I love you. remember that
Tea in comfort
Tea in celebration
Tea for a chat
Peppermint tea for after dinner
Camomile to chill out
Turkish apple tea when I'm feeling fancy
Tea to break the ice
Tea at a mr scruff gig.
Tea at lunch
Tea to relax
A Caffeine fixer, decaff elixir
What ever you fancy, theres one for you.
Unless your my friend who hates hot drinks with a passion!
But then if that's the case, there always sweet iced tea!

TEA!

Thursday, 2 October 2014

You are only inferior if you think you are


Throughout my life I have struggled on and off with the feeling that I am inferior to everyone else.

This problem is two fold: I let people make me feel that way or I make myself feel that way.

It's not pleasant to pick at yourself and find problems.

I'm growing in confidence small step by small step, but it wasn't always like that.

At uni , I was surrounded by new people from different backgrounds. For the first time I was made fun of for my accent, for that I was from a southern university town but was not rich or from a private school etc.

One guy in particular thought he was the bees knees, he was from money and loved to show it.


Money does not buy you class. Manners cost you nothing.


However,

This guy would parade his fistfuls of cash, he would talk about posh nights out and then pick at you, asking what you had done, where you have been or what you can't afford.

I had and always have thought him to be an idiot, at 19 it frustrated me that he was getting to me so much. I was letting him get me down.

Now on reflection. This guys was actually very insecure and used his wealth as his mask, his protection. No matter that it alienated people.

If I could go back, I would tell myself to not endulge that guy with conversations that were undoubteddly going to end up devauling myself and those around me. I would tell myself that I am the reason that I felt belittled and down, I was letting it conclude that way.

Now I try to be polite but I put more effort into to the conversation and with quiet strength I feel reassured that I'm not inferior to anyone.

Neither are you.


Tuesday, 30 September 2014

All I did was cut my hair

My most recent photo

My hair had grown really long and although I was loving it I knew that the remnants of my blonde stage (from almost two years ago) needed to go. Those dead bits HAD to go.

So on Saturday I went to the hairdresser and let him cut the last of my blond out. I'm now left with shoulder length hair. I know hair grows back and hopefully this time ill be able to keep it healthy but this hair cut reminds me of myself about 8 years ago. Eight year ago me that was always unsure about herself and hated how she looked.

This weekend I've been complaining about my hair, because honestly I don't feel myself and I don't think it is the best length or style on me. But instead of going on about how much I dislike it, I'm going to have to embrace it. I don't want to be a drag about it. At the end of the day its only hair.

I'm going to find cute hairstyles for my shorter hair and try to enjoy it. I've realised that since growing my hair long over the past 3 years, that my long hair had became my safety net. Why does long hair have to be the main symbol of femininity? I have to get over it and stop stereotyping myself.

Have you ever struggled when cutting your hair off? Did you loose your sense of identity?

I know its not even classed as a short hair cut. I just need to get on with it and get to know my new image/self!

Monday, 29 September 2014

Gratitude #10


The past couple of weeks have been a mixture of good and bad. This weekend. Two whole days. Were good ones. I am grateful for:

Being at peace with myself for the first time in a very long while.
Understanding that it is okay that I don't always feel that way, life is a mix of highs and lows.
Feeling nervous and knowing something is so important.
Baking and not being too bothered about the outcome (I'm not the best baker).
Seeing my best friend so happy and content.
That my Mum has really gotten into making green smoothies!
Watching a chick flick and having a right good giggle.
Starting to de-clutter the living room, my head is already feeling less fuzzy and the room feels more calm.
Singing in the shower.
Jojoba oil
Having the time to put on make up on both Saturday and Sunday and knowing that I don't have to wear it but I wanted to.
For not feeling the need to wear high heels and be comfortable in my cute flats.
Bringing my own wellbeing into focus and allowing myself to be selfish.


What are you grateful for?

Thursday, 25 September 2014

Green People // Age Defy Cell Enrich Facial Oil

As I creep towards my 30's I have been really thinking (with urgency) about adding an extra step to my routine. An anti aging step that is! Right on time the lovely guys at Green People asked if I wanted to review their Age Defy Cell Enrich Facial Oil.

This facial oil is priced at £29.95 for 30ml, paying thirty quid right off the bat is a lot of commitment. I'm being honest, if I were interested in this oil I would probably buy the trial size of 5ml for £10.99 first. But I'm a cauticious carol and would plump for the cheaper option first anyway.

So, the Age Defy Cell Enrich Facial Oil is jam packed full of ingredients, including Rosehip, Perilla and Blackcurrant. It is designed to promote cell regeneration (did you know that our skin starts to degenerate at around the age of 25, yeah not fair!) and reduce the appearance of wrinkles, whilst working to soothe and reduce any inflammation.

I have been giving this facial a good go since August and while I will say it is incrediablly nourishing, I do find that it takes absolutely ages to sink into my skin, perhaps due to it's runny consistency. So I experimented and mixed it with my facial moisturiser and still I felt it was too heavy. I dont like going to bed with a sticky/oily face, so having to make sure that I have put this on more than an hour before bed time, is sometimes a bit of hassle.

Normally I'm more of a serum girl, I find that they sink in easier and I'm lazy so that works better for me. What I'm thinking is perhaps I didn't need such a full on oil during summer, I will continue to use it throughout Autumn and Winter and see if my skin loves it more then.

I don't think this oil has caused any breakouts, although I don't use it everyday so I can't say it wouldn't if I had done. Once I awake from my slumber my skin does look more plumped and refreshed, maybe a little more oily in the morning than normal but never the less a bit more beautiful. Maybe that's thanks to the "20 beauty enhancing actives" that this Age Defy Oil holds. Who knows. All I know is that I will continue to use a night time oil/serum in my routine from now on!.

Have you got any suggestions on what i should be putting on my skincare wishlist?


Tuesday, 23 September 2014

Love yourself


“Love yourself enough to give a damn about looking your best. It’s all a sacred celebration.”

I love what Danielle LaPorte is saying here.

I saw this exactly when I needed to.

I don't wear makeup everyday. I don't feel like I need to, especially if i'm just going to work. I go out into the world dark circles, spots and all. I am able to say that I am confident enought in my own skin, which enables me to leave the house with out any slap.

What I have noticed is that even when I have on a touch of blush or concealer, I am more confident in how I present myself. In how I act, how I talk. I work in a customer facing job. Sometimes I think, should I be making more effort in  my appearance? Will that give me an air of authority because I have make up on? Will I look like I have it all under control at work, because I look put together within the image I'm presenting.

However if I were to go down that route, I wouldn't be doing it for myself. I would be dressing up to meet someone else's expectation. An imagined expectation that I have put on myself.

Sure, some people say I look tried, but I make sure that I dress professionally, I try not to look too scruffy. Maybe I will try to apply a bit of rouge in the morning, if it does happen it will be kept minimal. I know I love snoozing in my bed more than waking up early to put a full face of make up on!

A good skincare routine also gives me confidence. When I have taken the time in the morning and evening I feel great.

Consistency is key

I lack consistency.

If I am able to continue with a routine and I am feeling good in myself, everything else seems to be a bit easier. If something disrupts it, like a big life event, a holiday or sickness, I fall out of schedule and stop doing what I know benefits me.

Sometimes I have to force myself to get up and put eye cream on! I mean, I love eye cream but sometimes it just feels like an everest amount of effort.

But in the end it is all selfcare and self care is important. It is a celebration of yourself.

As long as you are celebrating yourself in your own little way. You don't need the make up or the elaborate skin care routine, if you don't want it. Maybe you just need to put of a favourite top or scarf. These little things with help you to feel your best and hold your head high up for the day.

Maybe it can be singing your favourite song in the shower or on the drive to work. Making the most of your self is a daily opportunity. It can become a daily occurrence.

So whether you wear make up or not. Do something that makes yourself feel your best and smile.

Sunday, 21 September 2014

little acorns grow big oaks


It's not often that when I step into an ordinary taxi, I get extraordinary advice.
Normally it's either weather chat or how busy your day was.
But during a 10 minute journey I had with this lovely taxi driver, I felt at home and welcomed into his worn cabby world for all but a few minutes.

After talking about where I had been, we got onto the topic of new beginnings and persevering when you find things tough. After a moment of silence, he said

little acorns grow big oaks

In other words, making little steps towards your goals will lead to a big result in the end.No matter where you are in life you can take little steps towards what you want. Even if you never quite reach the end goal how you thought you would. If you step back and look at the bigger picture, you have this culmination of little actions that have made a great big heap of effort and in fact, you will realise that you have done a great deal.

All of these actions will create momentum and if you keep up with your enthusiasm and motivate yourself to continue. Who knows where it will take you.

All the work you are doing know can be used in the future.
Never give up. Do it for yourself. Your future self.

Monday, 15 September 2014

No Sugar, No Limits. Three Meals with Provamel


 Whether you are vegan, dairy-free or just trying to be a bit healthier. Sometimes you just miss the decadence of a creamy dessert, dip or dinner. I have to say i was getting a bit moody with my search for a decent tasting yogurt. But after reading Sarah Wilson's "I Quit Sugar", I hated how much sugar was in yogurts, let alone most dairy free yogurts currently on offer.

Here is where Provamel comes in, with the launch of their new sugar free soya yogurt, Provamel Zero Sugars. It has a savory taste so it can be used in both cooking and baking. So yes, I was sent some to try and I went for it whole hog. Provamel has also brought out a yogurt sweetened with agave syrup.

So even though I am limiting my sugar, the agave sweetened yogurt became the perfect treat when mixed with chia seeds, left over night, turning it into the most delicious, just sweet enough chia pudding. It was the yummy treat that topped my muselli. It is also great when simply topped with fresh fruit.


I incorporated the sugar free soya yogurt into two of our dinners for the past week. The first was a falafel wrap with a tangy vegan tzatziki dip.

For more than enough for two, you will need.

1 cup of Provamel zero sugars
About half or one whole cucumber diced.
half a clove of garlic minced.
A dash of good olive oil
A generous squeeze of lemon juice
Chopped mint and dill , as much as you like!
Salt and pepper to taste

All you need to do is mix all the ingredients together and enjoy it!


This turned out so tasty. The boyfriend even declared that it was on par with what he buys on the regular (the stuff I can't eat), so I take that as a success! It has a great cooling contrast when mixed with some spicy falafel.

A few nights later it was curry night. As i'm not a Deliah in the kitchen, I took direct inspiration from the recipe section on Provamel's website. Vegetable Curry it was!


For a Vegetable Curry for two, you will need.

350g Potatoes (par boiled)
2 tbsp of olive oil
Half of an onion, finely chopped.
Two tablespoons of your favourite curry paste
A can of chopped tomatoes
A small cauliflower (get a good mix of small and chunky bits0
100g of chickpeas
A giant handful of delicious spinach

The how to:

After you have heated the oil in your pan
Cook the onion with your curry paste, until it is all combined
Add the cauliflower and tinned tomatoes to the pan and cover
Mix in your chickpea, potatoes and spinach, cook for a further 15 minutes.

Serve with the option to stir in some yogurt. We both ended up adding some of the yogurt and it made the curry's texture even richer.

You can get hold of Provamel from Holland and Barret and other health food stores. Unfortunately, you cannot buy it in supermarkets. I would still go looking for it else where, just because it is currently the only yogurt that is actually, genuinely sugar free.

I was sent the yogurt to try, have fun and make some new recipes. All opinions are always my own and I will soon be on the hunt for more because I want to bake with it as well!

Sunday, 14 September 2014

Al fresco Eggs and Bacon


 Recently we made the trip to Scotland for our dear friends wedding. The morning after we went for a chilled walk before the drive home. On our walk we found the perfect place to have our breakfast, Coffee House in Innerliethen.


Even though we were only just over the border the pace of life here seemed different. It may have been because it was the weekend, for the atmosphere was tranquil and the people happy and calm. The main street on the town is lined either side with high hills, topped with beautiful green trees.

I had made the conscious choice to have a tech break for the weekend, however I did allow my camera and I felt like recording this morning in photo's because I felt so chilled out and well, blissed. I was full of joy for my friends happiness, I had had a great night and I was with my love. This morning was good.


The landscape was incredible and we wished that we had more time to explore the surroundings. So wilth our journey home impending, we sat down outside and ordered breakfast.
Two bacon and egg on toast and a pot of tea for two.


Although the air was fresh and cool, the sun was out, so it was a pleasure to be sat outside and soak up the good morning feeling as much as possible. So we tucked into our delicious plates of food and sipped our tea, recounting stories from the wedding the night before and just nattering away about nothing happily. I don't eat a lot of red processed meat but after a night of dancing my feet off, I felt like an extra topping of bacon on my eggs and I have to say, it was yummy.

With our bellies full and our hearts happy we made our way home. Leaving this quiet quaint town behind us, hoping to return some day in the future.

p.s This was our view from where we were saying. Not the best photography but it was beautiful to wake up to and I appreciate it none the less!



Thursday, 11 September 2014

Try not to compare


After spending an evening with some great friends, who happened to also be paired up in a couple. It got me thinking.

Why?

Because I was comparing how I behave in public with my boyfriend, to how my friend acts with their boyfriend.

Public displays of Affection.

PDA is not really for me, a quick kiss or a hug is fine but I'm not one to sit with my arm around someone or look into their eyes for ages etc. I'm not hating on it, it doesn't feel natural for me.

However,

It's that little niggle in your head, the comparison that gets you. You are completely fine in your habits but once you see how others behave or how they seem much happier than you. You fear that maybe they are better, their relationship or life must be better than yours. What they are doing is better.

STOP with the comparisons it's only going to lead to depressing thoughts. Instead put everything into perspective. Yes they look happy and that is lovely. However (using PDA as an example) I don't need to be like that to know that I am happy in my relationship. The snap shot you see of someone's life doesn't mean that everything is perfect.

If you see someone else and start to compare.Whether it be life choices, jobs, relationships, houses, how can you ever be content with what you have got. How can you ever move on and develop your own sense of happiness and wellbeing, when you are so consumed with what someone else is doing.

Focus on the positive. Dive in and soak up what you can do with your own life. Within your own means.

Encourage others in what they are doing and keep yourself busy with what ever pleases you and what benefits you.  Don't even compare it with how you use to be in the past.

Focus on now. Who are you right now. Where are you right now. What can you do right now.

Don't compare it, Be it. This is you. This is your life. Make is yours. Compare it to no one else.

Own it.

Tuesday, 9 September 2014

Gratitiude #11


The blog has been quiet lately. A few tinges of guilt have passed through me, but I have moved on from it. This space is for me to share how I feel, and how I progress in my own wellbeing and life experiences. And the past few weeks have been a strange mixture of calm hectic excitement and making sure that I am fully in the present when being a part of it.

You see, a lot has been happening around me. Important events that I want to remember.

Recently:

My best friend got married and it was an amazing day, to see her so happy and her now husband glowing with pride, filled me with an immense amount of joy. This was my fourth or fifth time being a bridesmaid, the first as an adult. I am so happy that I was able to experience it.

Before the wedding there were pre dinners, final wedding touches, and a girly night having our nails done.

I had to choose, do I blog or make sure I'm available, so with other commitments and a full time job, I chose to not blog as much. I have come out of it refreshed and less attached to having to post all the time.

I also wanted to catch up with family who had been traveling for a month. I now have a major travel itch that I need to scratch.

Next, two of my siblings started a new school year, at a new school. I am so lucky to see them grow up.

There has been baby news, friends moving in with boyfriends, couples moving to new houses.

And finally this past weekend we drove to rural Scotland to see two of our very good friends get married. It was peaceful and beautiful. The landscape was breath taking. Over the weekend, I didn't check twitter, facebook or the blog, I took in my surroundings and it felt good. It felt right.

Although none of these events were actually about me, they have filled me with happiness and gratitude. I have been busy with everyone else's business. It's not because I'm a nosy busy body, it's because these lovely wonderful people around me, want to share their lives with me. They want me to be a part of it. Part of their experience.

So I will be. I will be there at front cheering them on. Being present. Being mindful. Loving every second.

The feeling is immeasurable.

And I am full of gratitude for it.



wellbeing // What does wellbeing mean to you?

 
 
This next post in the wellbeing series has been written by the wonderful Annie, you can find her over at Hello Purple Clouds. Annie's blog focuses on green beauty and lifestyle, there's always some lovely beauty d.i.y to check out and awesome product reviews to read.
Here, Annie shares with us what wellbeing means to her and it makes for an encouraging, honest, thought provoking read. Thank you Annie!

Being asked to define what well-being means to me has been an interesting experience; I know what the words mean and even what might be a common perception of well-being: health, fitness, eating well, happiness. But what does it mean to me personally? 

It means being overweight but accepting it as a consequence of one of the two chronic diseases I have lived with for years. It means eating very healthily most of the time to make sure I keep my medication to a minimum, even though I know the weight won't budge. It means ignoring the judgment that many people make on your appearance and learning to love the me I am today because I'm stuck with it. It means having the love of a husband who really is a prince amongst men and valuing it all the more because my first marriage was a 15 year hell-hole of abuse. It means appreciating everything I have every single day and not getting hung up on the material things. 

It means that whilst my definition of well-being may not be everybody's, it is the overarching measurement of balance for me. If I can get up every day, eat well, my joints aren't swollen and burning, be not too exhausted to get through my day and feel love, give love and be content - then that is what well-being means to me.

It means doing the best for myself every single day.