Friday, 16 May 2014

Learning that you are sweet enough


 Sometimes you can't be polite enough, nice enough or sweet enough to the people you meet. Often, it gets you no where fast and results in a sticky mess that leaves behind a bad taste and not much else. Or you could be too sweet in demeanor because you think that that is want is wanted of you and this becomes the sweet expectation, leaving you with a sweet factor you have to meet every time when in certain social situations to be seen as your "normal" self. What do you get? A massive headache from your sugar binge overload!

Let me tell you something. I have a natural resting bitch face. I can also go for half an hour or longer with out saying a word and be totally content and happy. Quite often I may not really have an opinion about where we eat or what direction we walk in or what we do. It doesn't mean I'm moody or that I don't care, I'm just being me.

Being too sweet is just not me. I think of myself as a nice, kind-hearted person but I'm not going to go out of my way to make myself nicer or friendlier to you to make you happy. The thing is, we all too often make up in our own heads how we think others want us to behave.

Why don't we just all just do what feels naturally authentic and see how that goes? It breaks down expectations and builds real relationships based on honest behavior.

Try it. You are sweet enough already!

8 comments:

  1. Oh my god Liz I couldn't have written this better myself...I totally have resting bitchy face which sucks because I work in retail and people are often like "Oh you look happy" when actually there is nothing wrong with me I'm just not constantly smiling all the time because that would be a total ball ache. I often sometimes just feel content sitting by myself yet most people would think I was being in a mood haha! It's so difficult sometimes if I just want to be alone as I'm often mistaken for being in a strop...

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    1. I'm glad we can be "bitchy" together. Haha x

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  2. Great post, I think what you've said is so true and definitely speaks to me as I always feel I don't come across as myself sometimes in new situations and try to end up sometimes behaving how I think others want me to, but if you always do that then you're never really true to yourself or feel authentic as you said x

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    1. Thank you! I'm you liked it. "Be yourself, there's no time to be someone else!". This is what I'm trying to do anyway. x

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  3. Ha ha ha! Love the "resting bitch face" - me too. For reasons I won't bore you with, I spent many years having to put on a certain "face" for the world at large and it nearly destroyed me. These days, people have to take me as I am, being true to yourself is just about the kindest thing you can do, I think x

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    1. I so glad that you are now being kind to yourself. Love you Annie!

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  4. Resting bitch face really made me laugh. Our local version of that would be to have a face like a box of smashed crabs x

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    1. I honestly laughed out loud when i read "face like a box of smashed crabs"! Brilliant! x

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