Tuesday, 14 October 2014

Things to remember when you fail


Things to remember when you fail.

It is okay to fail.
It is okay to cry
It is okay to start again
It is not a weakness
It can be learned from
It is not the end
It's a chance to get it right

You are not a failure.

I spent two hours crying over my mock driving test. Because I failed. I failed. I made some mistakes and I failed.

The thing with failing or feeling upset or stressed out is that once you have managed to calm down and are not focused on the feeling, the deep raw emotion. You can begin to focus of the WHY. Why are you so upset? Why has this situation stressed you to the max? Why are you feeling like a complete failure?

Most of the time, for me at least, it is because I'm putting to much pressure on my own shoulders. I'm weighing myself down. I'm making it way to important. Creating so much importance that when something goes wrong, it causes major disappointment.

We should never allow ourselves to be disappointed in our own efforts.

I'm not saying that being mindful of WHY will eliminate stress. Because it will not.

Stress
Upset
Failure

These things will always be a part of life. We just have to learn for ourselves the best way to manage it. To think through the why and use those answers to resolve the situation or the emotions being felt.

I felt emotionally raw about failing. WHY? Because passing my test means better prospects in all areas of my life. Putting this much emphasis on it will lead to panic and stress. Lesson learned.

Next time I will be focused on my breathing and will work on accepting whatever comes my way. If I fail, I'll most liking have a small cry about it but I will understand the why and move on easier afterward.

I've learned that there is no need to be so hard on yourself. We have to have our own back. Be our number one supporter. Often all we do is focus on the negative. If we work on understanding the feeling behind the negative, its very often because we are working towards better prospects, hoping for better things.

Failing does not mean you are a failure. It's a chance to try again.

Stay positive.

3 comments:

  1. True! I remember crying when I failed my driving test, the real one! I cried all the afternoon. I think the reason I cried this particular time was that it was the first time I failed at something. And then I went to pass it again and suceeded! :)

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    1. Congrats on passing! I have to admit that I'm still nervous for the real test. So we shall see how I cope. Thanks for stopping by! I love reading your comments :) x

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  2. Ahhh Liz, bless ya little cotton socks! Take a deep breath, you'll pass next time :) x

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