Tuesday, 20 January 2015

What scares you?

There are quotes that I often see

Do what scares you the most
Happiness is on the other side of fear
If it were easy everyone would be doing it.

Moving past fear is hard. We can be fearful of many things. These fears can reach different levels. Some fade, some stay the same and if you let them, some will grow into a disabling fear that will limit your growth.

We don't want this.

I have come to believe that there are too types of fear.

Fear of the unknown
Fear from experience

Fear of the unknown could be anything, it could be based on your hopes and dreams.
Perhaps you are afraid of the outcome, you are afraid of failure. This kind of fear comes from self disbelief. It can also come from believing that your current circumstances mean you cannot move forward or do something that you would like to. You fear staying the same. But you are left with the unknown. Not knowing what to do, what direction to take.
So you stay still and never move forward.

Fear from experience, you may have had a heart breaking, painful or traunmatic experience. These upsetting memeories leave an inprint and anything that provokes these memories are met with fear and unease. Unease settles into worry and that worry can cause fear.
That knot in your stomach.
That tells you to back away. It is self preservation. It is times like this where we have to step back and look at what is causes the fear, is it best to actually back off or could it be time to take the risk?

Here is my example:
My wish is to work within the wellness industry. I want to work with people and create something positive and worthwhile. I am fearful of failure and my own compentancy. I worry that people would not want a service from me etc. This stems from dis-belief in myself.

When I sit down with myself and ask myself what I truly want. it is this. I am so passionate about it. That I know that somehow, in some form it will happen. How and when, have not shown themselves yet, this is what scares me. I have to push past this and really go through my options.

It is important to think about what I can do now, to get to where I want to be in the future.

I fear the unknown. But it also excites me.

I also want to develop certain relationships in my life and move forward with them. Previous experiences have lead me to be pesimitic about certain "milestones" that we all often go through and I find it hard to trust the process.

I know that I can't let past hurt affect the future. Otherwise the past could indeed repeat itself. Again, once I sit down with myself and think it through, I know that I can push past this fear. This has taken time and healing, but it is possible.

I have experienced pain and hurt but I cannot let the fear continue.

We all have fears. We always will, dealing with fear is also a life skill that is essential. It is essential to know your own fears and how you can deal with them in your own way.

Good Luck.

Thursday, 8 January 2015

Living Nature Manuka Honey Gel

Over the past year I really tried my best to find green alternatives to my previous favourites. So when I was asked to choose a product to try from Living Nature by the awesome people at Botanical Brands, I tried to pick something that I deemed affordable (£11.50 for 10ml) and it had to be an item that I needed. I'm trying to get rid of excess people! Living Nature Manuka Honey Gel it was!

I had been using lavender oil or good old tea tree oil on my spots. Spots tend to make their timely arrival when I'm sure all ladies get them, also when I've been eating all the crap and also when I'm stressed.

What they say:

"Manuka Honey Gel is a soothing gel for blemish-prone skin and trouble spots. This potent blend combines healing Active Manuka Honey with protective Manuka Oil to help cleanse, soothe and heal the skin. Active Manuka Honey is one of nature's miracle healers, and anti-microbial Manuka Oil is a super protector - both with proven skin benefits"

What's in it:

Aqua (water), Mel (manuka honey), Leptospermum scoparium (manuka) oil, Xanthan gum, Phormium tenax extract (NZ flax gel), Melaleuca alternifolia (tea tree) leaf oil, Tocopherol (vitamin E).

In all honesty, I have had this for a while and I didn't really love it. But, I didn't really hate it either. Without being too gross the type of spots that I get are either small and go away by themselves quickly or they will be deep-rooted, fleshy, bright red sore spots. This manuka gel didn't noticeably reduce the size of the larger spots (which are the ones that bother me the most!). I do think however that it did calm down the redness.

I found that if I repeatedly applied it then the gel had a better affect. Although on make up days, I couldn't do this, so application really only happened at night time and then before bed.

One other thing, it does smell. Not bad, but it is strong enough to get a whiff for a while after your have applied it. The gel consistency is nice but does not set or harden fully.

I'm not sure that I would buy a replacement but I do have my eye on the pure manuka honey to see if that would make a bigger difference!

Have you tried the Living Nature Gel?
Got any spot fighting secrets for me?

Monday, 5 January 2015

London Marathon Training: Getting back on schedule

So, my mini winter bug (which turned into proper lurgy) and letting myself feel sorry for myself, knocked me for six and training fell by the way side.

I now know that I need to kick myself into gear and get going, otherwise I could make the 26th of April 2015 really really hard. Harder than it needs to be. And it will be my birthday. Nobody wants that.

The weather has got a lot colder and I will take my long runs outside but I have decided to add some treadmill runs inside, so I can be a bit more comfortable. I will also be able to use the other equipment at the gym for my cross training. So I hope it will be a win win.

I have not missed out the the actual beginners training plan, that started almost a week ago. I hope to maintain this kind of momentum. Local fundraising events are also being booked, so this have given me the added motivational boost. Which is great.

Diet is majorly important when you want to work out. The right food will give you the right energy to fuel your exercise. I'm back on the healthy eating regime and I feel better for it. I even went out last night and had an awesome salmon salad with extra veg and I swear that my body was screaming thank you!

So there's a quick update. I'll let you know how it all goes.

If you would like to know more about why I'm taking party the London Marathon 2015 you can HERE.

Thursday, 1 January 2015

Fifteen in 2015

As the new year rolls in we often make new years resolutions. I don't know about you but when I set myself resolutions, they are normally set to the tune of  "it's time to quit something or I should be limiting this".

Putting inward barriers on yourself leads to no where. Or in at least my case, these kinds of new year resolutions have always been unsuccessful.

A new years brings the same butterflies of promise as a birthday does. The same ideals that this year will be different, better and brighter.

These things are all possible, change is possible. You just have to believe.

Believe in yourself.

The one thing that will make this year different than the rest is, you. You can and will (if your allow yourself) bring around change.

Change doesn't have to be big or quick. It can be slow or gradual. It can be simply as small are swapping green tea for your builders or walking an extra ten minutes a day.

2015 will also be my 29th year, so with that I have thought of 15 things that I would love to have accomplished by 2016 and by the time I turn 30.

1, run a marathon - DONE!
2, keep a constant exercise routine- nope, this has NOT happened! very much need to improve!
3, get back into reading -I've been reading a lot more! loving it!
4, volunteer- I am currently looking for the right opportunity
5, Pass my driving test- DONE!
6, make a house a home - In process
7, Bake a decent dairy free cake- The boy did make a lovely dairy free chocolate cake... if that counts?
8, learn a new skill - DONE!
9, say yes more - I'm trying
10, see more friends - I have been catching up with them all!
11, this will be the year of no hangovers - so far so good
12, go on a long holiday - Not yet, maybe next year!
13, treat my mum to a special day out - Ive taken her out for dinner but still need a day out!
14, make time for selfcare- could do with some more me time! will make it a priority
15, be truly myself, at all times- Yes, this year, I have been truly and completely me!

This list is full of attainable goals that I can both look forward and challenge myself with. They are things that can happen within my current means and circumstance.
By setting yourself attainable, reasonable goals, success is just around the corner.

I wish you all a very happy new year!
What are you looking forward to in 2015?
What are some of your attainable goals?